About Me

I’m Roni Kholomyansky, a licensed psychologist working with professionals and young adults in the Bay Area on a variety of issues. I am passionate about helping people get to the root of their problems in order to achieve lasting change.

I pride myself on being someone who is able to connect deeply with a wide variety of different people. I learned this skill growing up, as my family moved almost every three years, and learning to adapt and establish new connections became paramount. This carries over to my clinical work, as clients tell me that they are able to quickly drop their walls around me and speak from the heart.

I am a Bay Area transplant of four years. While I have loved living here, I have also seen firsthand how much pressure there is to achieve, and how often one’s work performance becomes intimately tied to their identity. Although this pressure is not unique to the Bay Area, it is felt very acutely here. I feel I am uniquely positioned to help tech workers and high-achievers understand themselves within this context and come to a greater appreciation of themselves and their abilities.

These are some interesting tidbits about me that may give you a better picture of who I am:

  • I played competitive tennis in high school and college. These experiences solidified my love for sports and my interest in working with athletes on their mental game.

  • I speak Russian and offer sessions in English or Russian.

  • I immigrated to America with my parents as a child, and the process of learning a new culture, language, and way of life had a profound impact on me. This is a unique perspective that helps me connect with immigrants and first-gen/second-gen’ers, as well as folks undergoing international moves.

  • I moved frequently as a child and have a first-hand understanding of how difficult this is for a child’s wellbeing and relationships. I have developed a sub-specialty in this area; I help folks unpack these experiences and better understand the impact it had on them.

My Approach

I use a depth therapy approach. I invite you to learn more about my approach and how it is different from other therapies here.

How My Approach Can Help You

  • If you’re someone who wonders why relationships don’t work out or why they don’t feel rewarding, we can dig deeper to understand. These are some questions we may explore: what are the expectations you think others have of you? How do other people perceive you in relationships? How do you respond to conflict and why is that your way of responding?

  • If you’re someone who feels that nothing you do is enough and even that you are not enough, we can begin to challenge those long-held beliefs and discover where they came from. Was this feedback you frequently received growing up? What were you validated and criticized for growing up? What would enough look like and how would you know?

  • If you’re someone who has been holding onto traumatic experiences and is now ready to unpack them, we can do that work together at your pace in a safe and nonjudgmental environment. In time we can come to redefine the meanings you associate with your trauma. Does it make you weak and unable to be self-sufficient, or does it make you strong and resilient?